Life Skills Education and Counseling - Mpumiro - Mpumiro Primary School

Visit by Lorna Katagara on 2021-12-08

Report ID
15274
Created by
Lorna Katagara
Created date
2021-12-10 06:18:21 UTC
Modified by
Lorna Katagara
Modified date
2021-12-10 07:22:25 UTC
Trip Time
10:13-05:30 (-5 h 17 m)
Village Time
12:20-15:30 (3 h 10 m)
Travel Time
-8 h 7 m

Life Skills Education and Counseling community lesson

School
Mpumiro Primary School 
Lesson Taught
Relationship Skills: Gender Roles 
Girls Attended
Boys Attended
Total Student Attendance
10 
Teachers Attended
Fathers Attended
Mothers Attended
16 
Total Parent Attendance
22 
Staff Attendees
Lorna Katagara 
Government Attendees
LC1 
School Staff Attendees
Class Teacher 
Visitor Attendees
None 
Total Attendance
Learning Objectives
By the end of the lesson,the community members will know that a person cannot be bought. That there is no price tag on a human being. The community I’ll also learn the steps in making decisions.
Notes
Lorna went to Mpumiro village where she met both the children and Adults. With the children we continued with prevention for persons living with HIV and then looked at care and treatment for persons living with HIV/AIDS. Lorna asked them how do we take care of Persons living with HIV?. They mentioned not to stigmatize them, fear them, to give them food in time, remind them to take their medicine, use condoms/rubber for sex among others. After the lesson with the children, Lorna met with the Adults. We started the meeting with an opening prayer led by Musa and the after opening remarks from the chairman. After these Lorna took over the meeting greeted the community members and we,fined them back from their borehole commission. She mentioned that it is good that today we had men present in the meeting as last time the lesson was limited because there was barely any man. She asked them what lesson it was and they mentioned Bride price. Last week Lorna mentioned that this lesson is taught in form of a debate where we have those supporting bride price and those against Bride price. We had proposers and opposers. From the proposers reasons for paying Bride price were; showing respect to the girls family for bringing her up well, the brides family knows the family of the man their daughter is going to marry and can tell whether he is capable of taking care of her. The man is free to bury the woman at his home village visa vi when he doesn’t pay bride price he will be asked to bring their daughter back home. Promotes value to the woman, it can also be used by the brides siblings to marry. It shows honor, brings 2 families together, exchange of wealth among others. The proposers Tiffu mentioned that since the beginning of the world when God was creating and God gave Adam Eve he asked the community did he pay for Eve. The proposers mentioned that yes he laid with his rib( haha this was interesting). Tiffu said therefore women should not be bought. An old woman mentioned that women who are “bought” or bride price given don’t last-in marriages because they have no respect for their husbands. They keep mentioning how much did you buy me”. Another man mentioned those who are not bought are not demanding, they are respectful among others. It was an interesting debate. Lorna then brought them together and mentioned that all their answers were right however Bride price does not mean to own a person or someone becomes their property. She built on the reasons on the proposers side. But also mentioned that girls are not brides and that they are not wealth.she advised the parents against accepting small bride price for selfish purposes and that no one has a price tag. Lorna then introduced Decision making Skills. She asked them what is decision making. Aziz mentioned to decide on what is right and what is wrong. This time Lorna did not start with the steps in making decisions straight away . However we looked at different decisions we make every day easy and hard decisions like cooking, to building, to marrying, starting a business, farming among other. Or a then read them a scenario of a 36 Primary school teacher who had been married to her husband for more than 16 years also a secondary School teacher. They had 6 children together however in the 6th child the wife developed complications and was bedridden for 5 months. They promised each other that there would be no one else they would get married to for better for worse. However the husband decided on his own and married a 2nd wife. On hearing the wife was not very happy. Lorna asked the community was the man right to do so?. Did the wife over react?. What did the man do right or wrong. Most of the men were in support of what the man did. Musa size mentioned that they had children who needed care at home and the man was working how was he to balance between the two?. The women were not so happy where one woman said that he has relatives can’t he send the children to the relatives while he figured it out?. One man mentioned that for him he lost his wife and taking care of his children became difficult which forced him to marry another wife. The women mentioned that is a different scenario. Musa stood up and said he was on the side of the women he told the meeting no one in his right sense can leave their wife on a suck bed because of his selfish desires without them agreeing and goes ahead to marry another wife. He said that was very wrong. The scenario went on for a while and it was very important. Lorna mentioned that most times we make decisions rationally or selfishly but that we had to look at all aspects before making the decision. That the process was better than the final decisions. We then looked at the steps in making decisions like; Pray about the decision, Ask for Advise or talk to the person about it for example in this scenario, take some time to think about the decision, consider culture, consider religion, consider family values, consider consequences because whatever one decides will come back to them. We concluded by saying the final decision may not matter but how you came to that decision is where the power lies. Nussura mentioned that these are the things that happen to them in real life. Lorna mentioned that’s why it is called a Life Skills. We develop Skills on how to make our lives better . We will start here next week which will be the final lesson in this week. The community members were still arguing over the lesson but we had to cut it short since time had gone. 
Next Visit
2021-12-15 - Purpose: We will look at role models , and Life Stories
Program Success
The community members embracing the program and attending meetings.
Program Critical Needs
Decision Making
Program Ownership
Active Participation
Other Program Observations
They are maintaining their hygiene
Program Expected Of Village
Mobilize themselves
Program Staff Preparations Next Visit
Call prior and prepare lesson
 

Report Photos

24622 During the debate of Bride Price
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24628 Musa and Musasizi discussion on the scenario on Decision Making.
24631 Still on steps of making a good decision
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