Life Skills Education and Counseling - Naibowa - new_school

Visit by Lorna Katagara on 2022-05-11

Report ID

16995

Created by

Lorna Katagara

Created date

2022-05-12 09:10:13 UTC

Modified by

Lorna Katagara

Modified date

2022-05-12 10:02:37 UTC

Trip Time

10:20-17:30 (7 h 10 m)

Village Time

12:15-15:15 (3 h 0 m)

Travel Time

4 h 10 m

Life Skills Education and Counseling community lesson

School

new_school 

Lesson Taught

Rape 

Girls Attended

0 

Boys Attended

0 

Total Student Attendance

0 

Teachers Attended

0 

Fathers Attended

7 

Mothers Attended

10 

Total Parent Attendance

17 

Staff Attendees

Lorna Katagara 

Government Attendees

VHT 

School Staff Attendees

Class Teacher 

Visitor Attendees

None 

Total Attendance

0 

Learning Objectives

Community members are able to speak openly about Rape and its causes .

Notes

On arrival in the village, Lorna moved home to home mobilizing the community members and also checking on other Kibo programs sustainability. In most of the homes there was children and elderly as most of the people were still in their gardens having received a downpour. After moving around to about 10 homes, Lorna came back to the meeting place. At the meeting place Wilber informed Lorna that there were some members who had another meeting at the church which collided with today’s meeting and so they would not be able to join us. He apologized also that it’s a rainy season and community members are busy in their gardens. He asked Lorna to not get tired but go ahead and teach those who come. He went ahead and opened with a word of prayer thanking those who came to the meeting and encouraged everyone to pay attention and participate. Lorna then took over and greeted the community members and told them she was not happy about their attendance and asked whether community members had forgotten about this day and they said no it’s just the season. Lorna encouraged them to dig early and attend the meeting on time on Wednesday’s. We started by reviewing the previous lesson on Adolescence and puberty stage and there after introduced the topic of the day Rape and Defilement . Lorna asked what is rape and mama Soci said it’s having sex with someone against their will. Godi said it’s kissing someone forcefully which made everyone laugh. Lorna told Godi that , that one can lead to rape. We then looked at what the law says in Uganda about rape that one is liable to 14 years in jail or life depending if this person was positive with HIV. We then looked at the different types of rape among which were; marital rape where Lorna asked is there such a thing as Marital rape? Women said yes that the men go ahead and have sex with them against their will. Again Godi said those women don’t know what they want they will never speak up but expect you to read their body language and so if they as men read their body language, they go ahead and have sex with them. It’s interesting the women shyed away as one Marion mentioned that women are like babies they need the men to read their bodies for them. Lorna mentioned here is where we find a problem if the mothers are acting like this, how do they expect their children to act when they can’t say yes or No to sex. Mwase mentioned that we are joking about this thing but it is true rape exists in marriages but he told the women and men that when one gets married, what is their role to give each other their bodies and so if the women refuses what is the man to do? To talk to their partner which unfortunately some don’t and end up having a very unhappy marriage . He went ahead and mentioned that the women lie to their men that they are sick and yet they are not forcing some men to rape their women. He encouraged the women to be open. He however mentioned that women should always speak up when this happens. Lorna mentioned sex is consented by 2 parties if one hasn’t consented but one goes ahead and has intercourse with them whether forcefully or through coercion, it is rape. We then looked at age related rape, incest sex between relatives as other types of Rape. We concluded by looking at the causes of rape among which were; Influence of Alcohol and drugs, bad peer groups, Idleness and unemployment, lust, injustices , and one person mentioned indecent dressing among our children. Here Lorna mentioned as much as that could be true, the victim of rape is never the responsible person for them being raped it is always the perpetrator.Hajji advised the women to encourage their children not to visit boys places alone but go in groups , reject free gifts among others. We will continue from here on the next visit. 

Next Visit

2022-05-18 - Purpose: Conclude with the lesson on Rape and introduce new lesson Defilement.

Program Success

N/A

Program Critical Needs

Communication Skills

Program Ownership

Freedom to express themselves both the men and women

Other Program Observations

Lorna walked in some homes and we found children, the elderly cooking on their stoves, some homes have hand washing facilities, the borehole is being kept clean.

Program Expected Of Village

Try their best to be on time

Program Staff Preparations Next Visit

Call prior and also prepare lesson to teach

 

Report Photos

Found Aisha cooking in their kitchen in Naibowa

The borehole looking clean and maintained . Lorna advised those with dirty jerrycans to always keep them clean for health purposes

This old lady was also found happily cooking on her stove

Lorna also found this boy busy cooking food in their kitchen

One of the hand washing stands and a well kept latrine

This was during the meeting when Lorna returned from the home to home mobilization