Life Skills Education and Counseling - Kigalama - Kigalama Primary School - Namutumba
Visit by Lorna Katagara on 2019-10-04
- Report ID
- 6989
- Created by
- Lorna Katagara
- Created date
- 2019-10-08 09:23:24 UTC
- Modified by
- Lorna Katagara
- Modified date
- 2019-10-10 11:20:15 UTC
- Trip Time
- 10:20-18:00 (7 h 40 m)
- Village Time
- 12:30-15:40 (3 h 10 m)
- Travel Time
- 4 h 30 m
Life Skills Education and Counseling community lesson
- School
- Kigalama Primary School
- Lesson Taught
- Relationship Skills: Gender Roles
- Girls Attended
- 0
- Boys Attended
- 0
- Total Student Attendance
- 0
- Teachers Attended
- 0
- Fathers Attended
- 11
- Mothers Attended
- 14
- Total Parent Attendance
- 25
- Staff Attendees
- Lorna Katagara
- Government Attendees
- VHT
- School Staff Attendees
- Life Skills Teacher
- Visitor Attendees
- None
- Total Attendance
- 0
- Learning Objectives
- To understand the different challenges men and women are going through in their families. This was introduction.
- Notes
- Introduction
Lorna went to this village to introduce Relationship Skills. Under here we look at the different challenges men and women and youth, children go through in the community/ family. This in turn leads us to the discussion of Gender roles where who does what and what responsibilities can be shared.
Overview
Lorna went to this community to reintroduce Relationship Skills since the first time the attendance was not very good. There were a good number of both women and men about 25 of them which was enough to revisit this discussion. The meeting begun with a word of prayer and then Lorna told them that they were to continue from the previous discussion as many people were not there. Lorna told them it was going to be an open discussion and that everyone should feel free to communicate. Lorna told them from the issues raised is where they will build the lesson because then they will know what exactly they were addressing. The men complained of the women being jealous and having a lot of rumors. Lorna asked how?, they said that sometimes maybe they are greeting a woman or holding a conversation and then someone quickly runs to inform their wives who in turn do not want to hear anything else but begin to insinuate adultery. The women complained of their men coming back late and wanting them to wake up in the night and cook for them food. Kagoya however encouraged the women to cook for their husbands at whatever time because no one said marriage was easy. She gave an example of her own daughter who had divorced her husband because of this and yet the husband was working late hours. She talked to both of them and they understood each other and her daughter went back to her marriage and so she encouraged that couples need to understand each other.
The women also complained of the men selling all the harvest and keeping the money for themselves or if not give them the least share and yet, they all did the hard work together. The men in defense said that if they give all the money to women, they will start thinking of gomesis, going to visit their parents , buying unnecessary staff which led everyone into laughter but they agreed this was true. They also said that women do not know how to budget. Here one man chose to disagree and said women know how to budget more than men and that let any man in the meeting who has ever bought anything in their house put up their hands. He said give a woman 5000/= and she will buy a saucepan,plate,cup which men spend their time in the trading centers but don’t even think of buying a thing but expect to eat. Lorna asked if the women in this community have side businesses and they said yes, Lorna then asked how do the men treat them knowing they have money?. They said they give them less money because they know they also work. Another concern the women raised amongst each other was no one wants to be told they are in wrong or their children are in wrong or were caught doing something wrong. Therefore they will just keep quiet. This issue also needs to be addressed among the women.
Conclusion
There were many issues raised however , one man in the community encouraged all the men and women to have love in their hearts for their families. He said all these issues arise because their is no love and understanding in the home. Lorna will start from here in the next lesson with Gender roles( wha is the role of a man in the home and a woman ).
- Next Visit
- 2019-10-23 - Purpose: Teach Gender roles
- Program Success
- Yes.This community has had a very difficult time doing something together as a community because of lack of trust amongst each other or because so and so does not like the other person and so they cannot work with them are such issues in Kavule. However Lorna encouraged them to do something that will bring them together and on this day they mentioned to Lorna that they started a savings group. They each contribute 1000/=.
- Program Critical Needs
- Relationship Skills; Gender roles
- Program Ownership
- Community members attendance and Participation
- Other Program Observations
- Those who have stoves have maintained them, sanitation facilities are also being maintained . Their borehole is spoilt but the Muslims are digging one at the mosque.
- Program Expected Of Village
- Mobilize themselves in large numbers to attend the meeting
- Program Staff Preparations Next Visit
- Prepare the lesson, call the chairman reminding him of the day of the next meeting
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